I have two layers of regular fiberglass screen and a top layer of tiny mesh super screen. I cut a circle of foam from a Kraft store about 3/16" thick. Spray painted it black and place it between top layer of super screen and the regular fiberglass screen. The drums are super quiet now. Cuts the stick noise in half.

I purchased the foam at a craft store. I used a band saw to slice it into about 3/16" strips. Then cut into circles.

I have two layers of regular fiberglass window screen sewn on the copper tubing

Now I put on a circle of the craft store foam. You don't need this foam, but I found it cuts the stick noise in half. You will notice in the video below how quiet they are. It will look better in the end if you spray paint the circle of foam black.

Now I put on a layer of Superscreen. When the Super screen eventually wears through, you just have to replace the top layer of super screen and not have to replace the screen on the copper.

Diy mesh drum, Roland PD85 snare, Rock Band drum pad comparisons
Also the DIY mesh drum is closest to the mic
 
Next I will make improvements to my L Rod mounting Brackets.